I know it feels like an understatement but you sometimes make more progress by pointing out that conservatives are fucking rude. going out of your way to call someone the wrong name because you donât like them? rude. childish. this isnât fucking kindergarten, Carl. she said her name is Jennifer. Everybody knows her as Jennifer. You are the one making things confusing. Grow up.
âmisgendering is violenceâ: invites discourse over the TraNs DeBatE, puts people on the defensive, opens you up to accusations of liberal snowflakery, comes off as a hypothetical thought exercise
âWho the fuck is Jason? I donât know a Jason. Oh her? You mean Jen? You mean fucking Jen? Thatâs Jen, dipshit.â : crystal clear. youâre making shit more difficult for everyone because youâre a rude manchild.
honestly this feels like the âconversations with queer people/good allies [classical painting of philosophers]â vs 'conversations with conservatives [picture of teacher helping a toddler play with plastic blocks]â meme. You have to meet people where theyâre at.
Conservatives will not engage at the level of 'misgendering is violenceâ (because they will not acknowledge out loud that hate speech is a type of violence unless they are the ones trying to censor it, nor do they see misgendering as a type of hate speech) so when you engage, you have to do it in a way theyâll actually understand.
peer review here! yeah this us all right but I especially wanna point out the âseeding doubtâ bit bc thatâs exactly what youâre doing.
Youâre not gonna convince a conservative theyâre wrong in an epic debate, especially if theyâre a stranger. For most people deconstructing hateful beliefs, itâs gonna be death by a thousand cuts. You probably wonât ever see it, but if they consistently get this response, there is a chance theyâll eventually start to wonder if theyâre the problem (they are). Itâs not guaranteed, but itâs possible.
Of course, deconverting bigots is positive, but not the main goal. This approach takes a tiny step towards that happening while still prioritizing the real goal, which is protecting marginalized people.
it also works bc conservatives and neolibs tend to conceptualize things in terms of individuals, not systems. appealing to an abstract concept that they donât believe in isnât gonna do shit, but going âwere you raised in a fucking barn? youâre making everyone here uncomfortableâ will because they do believe manners exist
and this goes for p much any form of bigotry, not just transphobia.
there really are no consequences for being wrong about your gender, orientation, etc. for a while, btw. if you try something and it just doesn’t fit, it’s better to have tried and found out than to be left wondering.
The thing is nobody at pride is evaluating you to determine if you’re queer enough to be there because they’re too busy thinking “it’s so hot out” and “why is this lemonade 12 dollars?”
i think as adults it’s our responsibility to be nice to kids and treat them with the respect we wish we got at that age and im not kidding or exaggerating in the least
Marianas Trench will write a funky little pop punk song and then the next track will be a seven minute long masterpiece of combined styles and musical themes to create a heart-wrenching narrative and you can never know which one you’re going to get
we need to make an add-on that gives you the dictionary definition of queerbait every time you make a post accusing a show of it because i saw someone call bowser/luigi queerbaiting and. i have officially had enough. if you hand to god thought that nintendo entertainment was going to let that lizard turtle monster raw the little green plumber guy then that is entirely your fault. i cannot help you any more.
